Purpose of life

All of us were gifted with great mystery of life.... that is our living in the world. When we attain few years of age, we start realising the realities of the world.
Privilege, power, society, culture... Most of our lives surrounded these elements.... But still don't know what's the purpose of life...
We are very busy in search of happiness.... But has no peace of mind... Even if we succeed in achieving their objectives, we remain dissatisfied. Our search for peace and happiness, therefore never ends....
So concluding that we, humans are not natural or not upto the purpose of as advised by the nature.

Ok.... Let's take the guidence of science.. Means researches of scientists....

Scientists researched much about nature and concluded that
ALL LIFE HAS BUT ONE PURPOSE, PERPETUATE IT SELF, THE HUMAN LIFE IS TO CREATE NEW HUMAN LIFE THAT WILL CREATE NEW HUMAN LIFE. THAT'S ALL THERE IS TO IT.

Every animal has their own purpose of life.....
Every single creature on the planet has a role to play...
the purpose of humanity is to survive and reproduce ....

Our body r interested only Reproduction and survival. Not on your social values!        
Let's explore....

Many times we believe the religion influences by the family, society we belong.
Some religious beliefs also good... According to Bible... God created both man and woman in divine image and are created for relationship with each other.

Ok... When coming to the point.... As human gaining and improving knowledge from the stone age... There is no problem for survival..... And overcame hurdles for reproduce also..... But are we selecting the perfect partners for reproduce, WHICH IS A MAIN GOAL OF HUMAN LIFE??

All animals select their sexual partners for reproduction in natural way.... Not in marriage alliances which is arranged by elders☺️... Birds by their chirping... Animals by their roars....

Why some people exude sexual attractiveness, even though they look normal.....
Naturally human like as their partners, who help others..... It's not about only like that helping nature.... Interestingly other benefit has been there in that scenario.... Being helpful signals that they possess good genes as well as Willingness to share resources.... Who can give a birth to his or her baby with that genes....

Strangers are sexy for men.... Researchers have concluded that this could be do with the potential evolutionary benefits to men of mating with more than one partner....

New Research shows that Women also prefer unfamilier male partners, under certain circumstances. Women in their most fertile portion of their menstrual cycles found men from other ethnic backgrounds as more attractive. The authors speculate that this could be the desire of genetically diverse offspring.  (sources: ideapod)

A study found that women in their most fertile portion of their cycles preferred creativity to wealth in potential male partners signalling good genes or intelligence.....

Like this women like musicians..... Music talent also signals good genes....

Humor is attractive to both women and men.... Scientists speculate that funny people are smart, and smart is sexy

So, what does this mean practically?

Sexual selection refers to the reproductive advantage of certain members of a species over others.

Here in our Indian system community system, dowry system, etc are selecting our partners...
Money, assets,  job, Designation, and even the country where working is also a factor in selecting the bride groom, that's partner in our language...
Then how the purpose of the life fulfilled and how cherished touches our Hearts....

Another sarcastic situation in our system is getting married in close relations like mother's brother, aunty's son, uncle's son, etc.. First cousin marriage is far more common, and far less dangerous.

When two people feel % appreciation from one another, they accept so much more than they do otherwise, when the appreciation is low, conflict is high.... This is often seen in sibling relationships because siblings don't often express appreciation to one another b coz usually they don't have attraction with each other.....

Nature is what we are put in this world to rise above.... Humans should not turn to nature for moral guidence....
Humans have social and psychological mechanisms to deter incest.....incest taboos are learned social conventions...
First degree relatives are the induduals you share 50 percent of our genes... Non human animals have evolved a host of strategies to prevent incest... Even plants possess anti-inflammatory incest mechanism...(source:Hal Herzog ph.d, animals and us)

Physical attraction is largely biological, something that isn't directly controlled by your consciousness. You can't control who you are physically attracted to... It is however generally wrong to pursue romantic or physical relationships with your close relation. Our genetic attraction mechanisms are tuned so that those that are extremely genetically close to us are less attractive.

Even Draupadi had felt that she would have been better off with some protector other than her pandava husbands, that feeling made her q turn to Karna...

to be contd....

Body language

Hi, all get ready by making your body with moisturisers, creams, powders, lipsticks,etc. You are thinking that you are taking care of your body much..... No definitely not..... When you hear to your body only, it's done that you are taking care of your body.
Getting confusion.... that's what we want to hear from our body.... Generally all writers tell that listen to your heart .....
Just because I speak as your own voice... does not make me imaginary. There is no other voice you can hear inside yourself but your own. Every voice is yours. And likewise, every voice is Mine ..
Engage your body in a heartfelt conversation, with hope, but having no idea what to expect. After about some time of this focused communication, something amazing will happen.
Every part of your body has its own consciousness or its own soul. transformative words feel your journey to discover the extraordinary paths..
Your Heart pounded the path to your freedom from this condition will finally begin.
Approach your body with genuine compassion, understanding that it is made up of conscious cells who experience emotions.

I have found that when communicating, there are three key steps to gaining the cooperation of the body:

Approach your body with genuine compassion, understanding that it is made up of conscious cells who experience emotions.                                                     Build trust by engaging your body in mental conversations about your desire for the two of you to cooperate...                                    Allow changes in the conversation by using different thoughts and words that elicit spontaneous elevated emotions.

After conversation we can communicate our body by TOUCH only..... Touch can change even our attitudes also...
Let's pick a person, who comes near to your heart from this amazing world whether it is your same gender or opposite....
Why because skin can't respond for it's own touch, can't tickle it's own....
Body doesn't react when touch by their own, skin can observe other persons intentions by their touch whether that person has love, hate, anger, etc, skin can identify who touched you whether it's your mother or your love.... Even in your sleep.
Skin can tell you anyone observing you from the backside if you talk to your skin.

One word reveals more than 1000 messages, and one touch reveals more than 1000 words....

Language is a bridge to share the feelings, but they can communicate only when both know a similar language......

But with out words also two people can communicate....

Don't want to try.... Don't want to even talk... Body can speak even without our try.... Male and female can identify the signals of cherished..... Words can cheat.... But language of body can't cheat. They truly come from the heart 💓 for all the ages....

It's very natural to give smile for known persons, there is much difference in casual smile and loving smile. The smile which comes for our lovables don't stop with lips, lightning the eyes, eyes will become big..... By that beautiful smile with big eyes we can tell our heart.....

Generally persons bend in sitting or a standing position for opponents to express their willingness... That's the one of the expressions of the body for their liked ones... Listening carefully admiringly to others is the sharing of their love.... Talking with hasky voice in bending position is a signal of love.....

Searching others affection and interests in their eyes with their eyes....

Eyes display their willingness by turning them from opposites eyes to shoulders, chest and depends upon their interests....

Sometimes ladies express their Willingness by seing sides of the guy with a different smile of nervousness💃... Really it's a great expression of love of ladies.... The guys who understand this expression is the luckiest....had One of the beautiful moments in the world of love.....

హృదయ సవ్వడి

సముద్ర తీరాన నడుస్తున్నాను, ఎంతో ప్రశాంతంగా....

ఎన్నెన్నో ఊహలు ,   ఎన్నెన్నో    కలలు......

దూరంగా ఊరించే సముద్రం, ఎన్నెన్నో  అలలు.....

హఠాత్తుగా ఒక గాలి దుమారం, ముంచెత్తిన అలలు...

ఎటు వెళుతున్నానో, ఏమి చేస్తున్నానో తెలియని అయేమయం...........

తేరుకున్న నేను తిరిగి చూస్తే చెదిరి‌ పోయిన కలలు.....

అయేమయం లో మళ్ళీ నడవడం మొదలుపెట్టా......

కాళ్ళు కూరుకుపోతున్నాయి ఇసుకలో....అలసిపోతునన్నాను....

వెనక్కి తిరిగి చూసుకుంటే ఒకటే జత అడుగు జాడలు

తెలియడం లేదు ఎందుకు నడుస్తున్నానో, నడుస్తూనే ఉన్నా....

కొన్ని అడుగులు నాతో కలిసి నడవాలని ప్రయత్నిస్తే

నా అడుగులు దూరంగా జరుగుతున్నాయి......

ఒంటరి అడుగులు అని జాలిపడి వచ్చిన

వేరే అడుగులకు పక్కన నడిచే చోటివ్వలేదు.....

కాని గాలి దుమారం లా ఉన్న ఒక అడుగుల సవ్వడి

నన్ను ఊపిరి ఆడకుండా ఉక్కిరిబిక్కిరి చేస్తుంది....

ఆ శబ్దం నా హృదయాన్ని ఎక్కడో  మీటుతుంది.....

కలిసి నడవమని నా హృదయం గోల చేస్తుంది....

ఎన్నటికీ కలిసి నా అడుగులు తో అడుగులు వేయలేవు

అని చెప్పినా నా హృదయం ‌నా మాట వినడం లేదు...

కలిసి నడువు ..... ఇప్పటికైనా మగువ అవ్వమంటున్నాయి.....

తడబడుతున్నాయి అడుగులు... చెప్పిన మాట వినడం లేదు.....

జీవితంలో ఆనందం గా గడిపిన ఆ క్షణమైనా తరువాత

నీతో నడుస్తుంది, కలిసి నడువు అని ప్రోత్సాహిస్తుంది

ఎటువంటి బెరుకు లేని అడుగులు జత‌ కలుస్తూ ఉంటే నా అడుగులు లో ఏదో‌ బెరుకు...

స్పష్టత కలిగిన ఆ అడుగులు తో నా అడుగులు లో ఒక స్పష్టత.....

మూసుకున్న హృదయం తెరుచుకుంటుంటే అప్పుడు కనిపించాయి...

వెన్నెల ఆకాశం, చల్లని చందమామ....

ఇప్పుడు కలలు, అలలు కలిసి మెలిసి పాదాలను తుడుపుతున్నాయి........

Woman

WOMAN

Woman, what a sounding aa, 

Woman are one of the most beautiful creations of God, which can't understand by Man.

I know Woman are beautiful by alive their origins and their culture to be NATURAL, SINCERE, AUTHENTIC.

what's natural...when we question

 this to our Heart only...we can answer that naturally....

adjusting with the husband who is more elder than that girl?

adjusting with the life when the husband is expired?

adjusting with the guy (i mean hubby)whose wave lenghts can't match?

The culture and tradition of India is considered as old and great all over the world. But women, here in India are not happy as in other countries. 

women, who are thinking that i'm happy is also not really happy . Their happiness is due to Husband's well career or family's richness when compared to other families. They are not happy from the soul.

women, ask your self, Am I Happy? i want the ansewer from your Soul, at least from your Heart?

Don't answer me that i'm very Happy because my Hubby has no Bad habbits.

Apart from Sex discrimination, illiteracy, female infanticide, dowry system..........................................................I found the main problem especially from middle class, high middle class, and high class  are suffering much because of social issues and lots of Restrictions.

what are you?

A Mother,  before that a Wife, Before that a daughter, before that a Woman. For what you are created.....as a method of procreation....but for not to get marry and appreciate your hubby or be a hubby liker(changing or self making as per hubbies taste).

Even if God wanted us to have sex just for reproduction, he could have made us like many animals that just go into heat once or twice a year for a short period.....but He has left some things for us to discover by us looking at our own biology.

For instance, God could have gave us the same feeling in our genitals, as we have in our fingers, thousands more nerve endings in these that are especially sensitive to touch can generate great pleasure by touch.  if God created us for procreation, there would be no need for these extra nerve endings.

so our love is from duty and commitment, not from emotion. many of the hubbies are not connecting their wives on an emotional level. Man and Woman want to be emotionally connected. Guys want to search for the ways to connect her emotionally.

So when we come to the point, Humans  Basic instincts are Food and Sex. we get food immediately after came from Mother's womb. They both Mother and Father care us much about our Food, They want to be at that stage.
But what about the second thing? we want to decide that after we came to young age? 

Anybody of you selected your partner?
If your answer is Yes, common Let's explore......
does he belongs to same caste?
did you see about his financial background?
did you enquire about his bad habits like cigars and drinks?
If all answers are Yes, most of You are not Happy.
You are in Luxurious life, not in a Happy life.

Researchers concluded that Women prefer unfamilier male partners, under certain circumstances. Women in their most fertile portion of their menstrual cycles found men from other ethnic backgrounds as more attractive. The authors speculate that this could be the desire of genetically diverse offspring.  (sources: ideapod) 

But Its just psychological impact of caste and financial community on every one. They are all mostly just excuses to continue that caste and financial community, but the problem is even parents don't know that they are excuses which are created by caste system itself.

some people impacted the Hindu society as marriage is a social responsibility, not a personal need, which is a completely wrong concept. Marriage is always limited to just 2 people, but not their families or communities.This is even more pronounced in case of marital alliances, which are about joining of two families in a combined social construct, rather than two people in love coming together, to spend their lives together.

Attitudes toward specific drinking behaviours correlated better with those behaviours than did more global attitudes. Alcohol has been a part of communal life for millennium, and has an important place in social, spiritual, and emotional experience. One may drink for multitude reasons like to relax after a hard day or to join friends in socializing.

So definitely hobbies like drink and smoke can't decide one's character. But our society largely  judges the bridegrooms based on these habits.

A woman wants 

a man to make her feel like a woman.

a man to notice when she spent time to look pretty.

A man to compliment her and compliment her often.

A man to appreciate her, not take her for granted.

A man who cares about pleasing her.

A man who want to get to know her specifically and don't just group her into all women.

A man who understands her stuff.

A man who communicates in his happy and sad moods.

A man who is proud of her and happy for her.

A woman get matured only when she got affection and appreciation from a man, with out opposite sex's approach, no indidual can get maturity.

As I seen in India, especially in Hindu religion many middle age and young age women didn't get matured till. They are very much perfect physically and mentally. But problem is in our society. Girl shouldn't speak to other boys. Actually as nature prepares, every human being want a communication towards opposite sex, which is not allowed by our society. Then how they will get matured. We are behaving opposite to nature.

With out maturity women live very casually by seing their temporary happiness in costly clothing I mean sarees, expensive jewellery, etc.

What's the most painful in this situation is they even don't know what they are missing for their lifelong.

Woman is a good daughter, good wife, effecient mother, experienced cook......... But where is the woman in that..... Missing her identity.......

I don't want to discuss gender authorities or something...

Their dull and dark lives have attained warmth of life.

Women are very simple, a perfectly edited sentence can also unlock her Heart.

woman want to hear that they are beautiful, it might sound shallow, but it helps women boost their confidence and feel more loved.

And no two women are exactly the same.

Most women want to hear your commitment to them because that creates security.  They need to hear reassurence only when the things feel insecure.

Woman love to hear that last night was incredible.

So woman want more more communication. Let's be honest,  communication between genders can be a minefield.

Women seek partnerships that encourage their growth, nurture their talents, and allow them to be their best selves.

Woman is happy when their partner treats her as an entirely different individual, not as their extension.

Then only woman get matured.